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Should we check our partner's phone?!

2023-01-10 00:45:44Lifestyle SHKRUAR NGA REDAKSIA VOX
Should we check our partner's phone?!
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We must admit that at least once it may have happened to us that we were tempted to check our partner's phone, perhaps taking advantage of a moment of distraction, or driven by some doubts. But are you sure it's the right thing to do?

WHY DO WE CHECK EACH OTHER'S PHONES?

What drives us to check another's cell phone is the search for information that can make sense of what we don't understand or know about the other. This is a way of being able to calm fears and insecurities, feeding an unquenchable thirst for control and an extreme need to trust the other. Therefore, the need to control another's phone starts from a lack of trust that leads to implementing controlling behavior. Trust is an element at the base of any healthy couple relationship, able to produce peace and security. When we are unable to trust our partner we find ourselves applying controlling behavior towards him, evaluating his actions, words and behaviors as something far from positive, but capable of undermining our peace.

ANYTHING CAN TURN INTO DRAMA

If you decide to check your partner's cell phone, every little detail can turn into a drama. For example, if you find out that instead of coming home after work, two weeks ago he joined friends, you will start to wonder why he lied to you, what is behind the fact that he did not tell you, even going to there to guess a betrayal. Remember that you are not the owner of your partner's time and that they may just have omitted some information about their daily life, but that doesn't mean they don't love you.

YOU CAN MISUNDERSTAND EVERYTHING

When we read messages on mobile phones, especially if we don't write them down, we can easily fall into misunderstandings, because we don't know the context.

You might, for example, pass out reading a red heart in conversation with a friend, only to realize that the connotation—which we often associate with affection but is not said—was referred to to thank you for advice. data or an honor. Basically: words change meaning according to context. You can't judge any single message unless you know the whole conversation.

YOU MAY DANGER THE CONNECTION

If you start systematically checking your partner's phone, know that you will put your relationship at risk. Because everyone, sooner or later, is discovered. What will happen at that point? There are people who react very badly to the idea of ​​being spied on and controlled, so much so that they question their relationship and the feeling they feel – and they're not entirely wrong about that.


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