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Why the 'Mirror Law' is considered the 'magic' rule to solve problems

2023-04-27 08:03:38Lifestyle SHKRUAR NGA REDAKSIA VOX
Why the 'Mirror Law' is considered the 'magic' rule to solve
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The Law of Mirrors tells us that the origin of our negative feelings towards a particular person lies in our own heart and not in the other. In other words, it teaches us that feelings are innate within us, and that is why we are responsible for managing our beliefs, our ideas, and the negative thoughts we formulate about others.

Because anger is usually directed at oneself, not at the other. In other words, everything begins and ends within ourselves; it is this projection that has played with our mind, as if our reality were a mirror, that gives us back the image we are generating.

Yoshinori Noguci, in his book called The Law of the Mirror, tells a beautiful and emotional story that touches us and gives us the opportunity to integrate this idea into our daily lives.

This author puts us in front of a mirror to make us face our inner self, or the origin of everything that happens to us in life. In this regard, Jung would say "what you deny subjugates, what you accept transforms".

What irritates us about others is what we deny about ourselves

We need to examine the things that bother us in others. Why do we hate our brother's comments during family dinners? Why can't we reason anymore, when we are in the company of our sister-in-law? Why can't we bear it, when they don't support us when we want?

To analyze all this, you need to make a list of all the elements that bother us in the people around us. We will probably realize that there are values ​​that we are unfairly scorning, and that there are things that we are not doing right.

We must ask ourselves questions such as "why in a certain situation do I not react in the same way as everyone else?". "Why does a small and dry "hello" bother me when someone does it, while it does not provoke any kind of reaction, said by someone else?" The answer is simple: we do not experience the same feelings towards all people.

For this reason, the next step is to make a list of things for which we should be grateful to people who irritate us: surely they will have done at least one good thing for us, or for someone we love.

There are no deadlines for the realization of this list; in other words, we need to take the time to understand how many of the other characteristics that make us nervous are also part of us. When we've done that, we can make another list where we explain the issues we want to apologize for.

It is likely that this exercise is not easy, and that once it is completed, it will seem as if we have built a mandatory list of small, unimportant details. However, this courageous gesture will allow us to understand that sometimes even our eyes are hostile, our tone harsh and our criticism harsh and unsolicited. world.al


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