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"There was no turning back", Dalina Buzi talks about the divorce: It was a 7-magnitude earthquake

2024-12-19 14:08:07Lifestyle SHKRUAR NGA REDAKSIA VOX

"There was no turning back", Dalina Buzi talks about the divorce: It

'A 7-magnitude earthquake' - this is how Dalina Buzi described her divorce, which happened 2 years ago.

Teka was a guest on Alketa Vejsi's ​​podcast, she said that she tried to pull herself together, knowing that there was no turning back. Dalina admits that she was not prepared for divorce after 15 years of marriage, but adds that it could not continue, as there were major cracks and rifts between them.

"There was an earthquake, it was a big earthquake. That moment was a 6-7 magnitude earthquake and everyone was picking up their pieces, some a little longer, some a little shorter, but it felt like it was closure, it felt like there was no going back. No matter how prepared you are, you know, you feel that the relationship is not good, it's still like the matter of death: The doctor tells you you have three months to live, but you don't know if you're going to die on Wednesday at five o'clock or Tuesday at two in the morning. You are never prepared for death, just as you are not prepared for the day when you actually see that the foundation has been shaken, the earthquake has broken out and you have nothing more to do. You will come back the next day, but you can't continue because there are no cracks, there are big cracks, gaps"

How did you spend the period after the divorce? Here's what Dalina said:

"After the breakup, I went to all the forums in the world, all kinds of forums, in Russian, in Italian, in German, with Google Translate and I wanted to see similar situations and in every situation I was doomed. In a similar situation if I were a man it would be 'ok' and I was scared, I was shocked. I started to see myself through their eyes, it is very dangerous to see yourself through the eyes of others. I had a big cross, the first cross as a mother, what I did, it was devastating."
However, it seems that the breakup has made Dalina know herself better, and herself as a mother.

"The period after the separation was one of the most interesting periods in my life, difficult, but interesting and it was good that it happened. No, the separation, not the breakup of the family, but that period. It was a period when I got to know a Dalina that I didn't know at all, I had no idea about her. I was always very pampered, I did what I wanted, financially I was very well off, but the first thing I faced was Dalina, my mother, who was very important.

"I went through those first two weeks that are those noises that everyone goes through and then I saw the thing as a producer, really, like I do at work. I saw it from afar and said that there are four Dalinas: There is the public Dalina, not just on Instagram, but as soon as I open the door. There is the Dalina in the profession, the Dalina the mother and the Dalina who I am, why this happened, why I made this choice, why this thing ended and my share of responsibility," she emphasized.
The rest of her statement:

"I said now what are you going to do, what is my priority. The last thing on this list was to sit in the roundabout, I didn't have time because I'm Dalina the mother and children never ask, especially when they are pre-teens;

Dalina in public: Why do I have to explain myself to people? Have I asked who I chose, what career I chose, what I did? Never! With all due respect, this part didn't interest me at all;

Dalina in career: My whole life I've done this, I've chosen work. I told myself that I'll go to work and pretend, I don't do this, it's a big, heavy, difficult thing, a big cross that I was carrying. I don't care about work at all because I had two other Dalinas that I had to deal with.

First, I can't repeat the same mistakes, I got tired of making the same mistakes, I got tired of being afraid to face myself, I got tired of having my insecurities. It was too tiring and it wasn't worth it anymore.

I said I will transform, here we go back to the physical and spiritual state, I will become the Dalina that I love. This Dalina must be parallel to Dalina the mother. Here I realized that no matter how good a mother I was, I was not a mother, I have never been a mother because I took children for granted. But, fate wanted it and this was the most interesting and beautiful thing that happened, I say beautiful because there are also beautiful things that happen from misfortune and it brought me this at an age that was the most challenging age, pre-adolescence which is the most challenging age spiritually and psychologically for a parent;

In this process, which is not a very easy process, and at first I thought, okay, I told them, these are 'cool', my daughter watches "Dr. House" now, it has dark humor and this thing was easy. But, it wasn't at all, they carried this situation with them.

I told myself: Forget about work and don't ask about the public at all. At four o'clock I was home every day, for a year and a half I was home every day. I wasn't at home with my cell phone, like I was at other times, I was with them.


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