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Lira Gjika has a piece of advice for parents: Enough with these behaviors, you are making your children strangers to you

2023-04-11 13:52:19Lifestyle SHKRUAR NGA REDAKSIA VOX

Lira Gjika has a piece of advice for parents: Enough with these behaviors, you

From Lira Gjika

Parents, don't yell at your children when they make mistakes, because you scare them.

Fear and threat do not make you close to them, but distant and alien. You yourself avoid people who make you feel incompetent or guilty or ashamed of yourself.

A child cannot grow up alone and a child should be understood as a person between the ages of 0 and 18.

Remember this, parents and teachers.

A child who behaves badly has a problem, but finds it difficult to articulate it, because he does not know how you, as an adult, will behave. In general, you are a labeler, nervous, quick to anger, threaten them or feel embarrassed and not infrequently you even slap them.

Maybe you are right, but these ways of behaving are not the right way.

The child does "bad" actions not because he is bad, but he still does not know how to distinguish or judge the actions or words of an adult. When the child performs an action, it starts out of curiosity or to demonstrate that he too is growing and is an adult.

Parents, if you solve problems with nerves and anger, you will do nothing but scare your children and lose communication, which is very necessary, and moreover, you will encourage lying or avoiding them, to talk to you, to understand what action they have performed.

Parents, in the name of good you use punishment of children and thus, you scare them and they, unwittingly, will find someone or a place where they are not scared and scolded. And places, people and such "vehicles", there are as many as you want on the streets of a city. Parents, with your behavior, you encourage your children to be distant and alienated from you, to be afraid or afraid of the family. So, dear unwittingly, with the way of fear, threat, labeling the shoulders, you leave them alone.


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