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I've never received a hug, an "I love you", Rizarta breaks down in tears as she talks about her parents

2025-03-12 12:21:52Lifestyle SHKRUAR NGA REDAKSIA VOX

Rizarta has shed tears with the story told in the life line, in which she spoke about the difficult relationship with her father. The blogger said that her family is one of those families that does not know how to express love. "I have never received a hug, a motivating word, an I love you. I do not have the freedom to hug my dad whenever I want," said Rizarta, adding that her father is so cold that she has never had help from him, not even to do her homework.

Despite the difficulties she experienced, the resident said she has forgiven her parents because she knows they were cold to her not because they wanted to, but because they knew how. "I think my parents didn't know how to parent. I don't blame them for this," the resident said, among other things.

"Everything I do, I do for little Rizarta. She has always been insecure, she has never had a drop of self-love. I often feel alone... I don't know how to do it differently. I feel worthless, inadequate in what I always do. As a child, I always felt abandoned. It is the most terrible thing in the world to feel alone from parental love and for them to be there, unable to give it. If it hadn't been for my sister, I wouldn't have been able to cope with all this abandonment that I had felt. She bought me the mini-prom dress because my dad said no, she couldn't take it. I know that I always have her support for anything. I tell her that I love her very much and that she is the most important person in my life.

The special thing about our relationship is that we love each other so much, but we don't know how to express it. We didn't grow up in a family that talked to our parents every day. I never got a hug, a motivating word, an "I love you" word. I don't have the freedom to hug my dad whenever I want. Dad is very cold, I've never had help from him. Even when I was little and doing my homework, I didn't have the courage to ask him for help because I knew the answer. It would be critical because he didn't have the nerve to help me. I always thought he didn't love me, as if he had a secret anger or hatred towards me and I suffered a lot from this when I was little. I didn't love myself. There were even days when I would lie in bed and say that I would lie down like I was dead, pretend that I wasn't and see their reaction. No one reacted. They have this thing that they complain about a lot and all the anger, sadness and suffering they've gone through burden you. And it hurts, it hurts if I were to burden them. I've never received a bravo or a well done. They've always told me that whatever she does, she does it for herself, not for us. I don't know what I need to do to make her proud. Maybe my dad, as the mainstay of the house, has always been the burden of these financial problems. There have been times when the amount of shampoo used for her hair has been discussed. Many things have been discussed that may seem absurd, including the idea that I should cut my hair to avoid wasting so much shampoo.

My mom always comes and kisses me, but my dad doesn't. I've only hugged my dad once in my life, it was the day I moved to Tirana. I hugged my mom, my sister, and my dad. But only then. I wanted to tell you that I've missed that hug my whole life. I want to tell you the most basic words a child says to a parent. Sometimes they are so foreign that I can't say them. I don't judge them, I don't judge them, and I've even forgiven them. Even though they don't apologize to me, I've forgiven them because they know that much. That's the way they grew up and they can't change their mentality. I don't have the strength to change them. They didn't do it because they didn't want to, but because they didn't know how to. I think my parents didn't know how to parent. I don't blame them. I know that they have their own suffering and stress since childhood. "Dad, I understand why you acted the way you did and I forgive you. I love you very much, I have always wanted to make you proud and reduce as much stress and worry as possible. I feel more liberated, more fearless," Rizarta said in her confession./BBVA


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