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This is the most important day of your life

2022-10-20 18:43:13Lifestyle SHKRUAR NGA REDAKSIA VOX
This is the most important day of your life
This is the most important day of your life

By Seth Schwartz - Psychology Today

What is the most important day of your life? The answer to this question is very simple: today. The past cannot be changed, and the future has not yet happened. You can't do anything about things that have already happened, and trying to live in the future will take your focus away from the present.

Therefore, for anyone, the optimal strategy is to make the most of the moment in front of us. What if today is just another ordinary day? What if we just spend it sitting in meetings, or traveling by car? What if we had a terrible fight with someone close to us, lost our job or a family member?

Is today still the most important day? The answer continues to be yes! Doing our best today can make things easier for us later, or at least help us cope with whatever situation we find ourselves in. Ignoring today's challenges will not work.

As we will face the same challenges tomorrow and the day after tomorrow. Many years later, you may not even remember today or what happened.

Today can be confused with this month, this week, or this year. But today can once again help set the days you'll remember. Your wedding day, or the day of your first child's birth, or a milestone in your career, are all made up of events that happen on other days that we can't remember.

If the main events hadn't happened on those other days, our main memories might not have happened either.

I have a saying: Every day I wake up and see the light coming from the window is a blessing. Every morning I ask myself what I can do to make today memorable. Usually the answer involves doing something nice for someone else.

Can I help someone else complete their work? Can I help someone else feel better because they may be upset after failing somewhere? Can I offer support to a friend, family member or colleague who cannot use one hand? Can I hear someone who needs to speak?

In Judaism, the word "mitzvah" refers to doing something good for someone every day. In Hebrew school every Saturday we were asked what we had done to help other people the previous week. Did we help an old man cross the road? Did we comfort someone who was sad? Did we buy food for someone who couldn't afford to buy it for themselves?

Did we encourage someone who had a promising idea, and did we read what someone had written, did we pay someone a sincere compliment? Did we hold the door open for someone who had their hands full, and did we give up the parking spot to someone who was in a hurry?

All these things, and many more, represent the "mitzvah", that is, doing something to help someone else. So even if today is not that meaningful to you, something you do for someone else can be very meaningful to them.

Let me give you an example. A few years ago, a colleague of mine asked me if I wanted to be a co-author on a doctoral thesis of her student. I did not know the student – ​​I had never met him or heard his name. But I offered to read the paper and give him suggestions.

I finally had a chance to meet this young man last summer, and he spent half an hour telling me how much my comments had helped him and what a valuable advisor I was to him. And all because I read and commented on a doctoral thesis he published, with me as a co-author.

This person was not a native English speaker, and the time it took me to edit his paper made him a much more confident English writer. I had no idea I had such an impact, and I had never even met him before this summer.

Moral of the story: you never know how much a good deed will affect someone else. So today's greatest meaning may not be for you, but it may be for someone else. If you ignore it today, someone else may not reap the benefits you could have given them. So make the most of today. And you can deal with it tomorrow, next week or next year when they arrive.

Note: Seth Schwartz, professor at the University of Miami, USA. He conducts research on identity, immigration and adaptation to Western culture.


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